Postnatal (Recognised since July 2017)
Birth (Recognised since July 2019)
Lives in: Petersfield GU32
Local info and availability:
Hampshire, Surrey, West Sussex.
COVID-19 DOULA SUPPORT. Please get in touch to have a chat about your pregnancy, birth options and any concerns you may have about what is happening in maternity in your area. I am offering both of my services in person and/or remotely.
I’m Rupa, an experienced birth and postnatal doula available to offer support in Hampshire, Surrey and West Sussex. I trained at the BirthBliss Academy in 2016 and have completed the Doula UK recognition programme.
My two grown up children now live independently so I can offer a very flexible service to meet you and your family’s needs, including evenings and weekends. I belong to a large extended family where nurturing and supporting each other was an integral part of our upbringing and so, four years ago, when I came across the role of a doula, I immediately knew that it was the right choice for me.
Becoming a parent can be overwhelming and adapting to family life sometimes challenging. Nowadays, there appears to be much more pressure on being the perfect parent and with so much information available it can be a daunting and confusing time.
As a birth doula, we begin our relationship during your pregnancy by building trust and creating a safe space for you and your partner to explore all the options for your birth. I offer antenatal help around your birth choices and this is usually in the comfort of your home. I have experience supporting natural births both in hospital and at home. These have included water births, induced births and couples electing caesarean birth too. When couples have the active role in making these decisions a memorable and positive birth experience is far more likely. I am voluntary member of the MVP (Maternity Voices Partnership) at the Royal Surrey Hospital and attend regular meetings with other team members to help improve the service for maternity patients. I have also attended births at Frimley Park, The Grange, Queen Elizabeth and St Richard’s Hospitals.
As a postnatal doula, my focus is on the mother and her overall wellbeing by spending time nurturing, allowing time to recover, rest, gain confidence and bond with baby. I am always happy to offer support with your choice of feeding and can help to establish breastfeeding routines which can be difficult in the early days. I am also the extra pair of hands to help with practical tasks such as laundry, shopping, preparing nutritious snacks and meals for the family. From my personal experience and having supported other families, I recognise the impact a new addition can have on older siblings and how the overall family dynamics can change. For the older child, this can result in a change or regressive behaviour which can become overwhelming and challenging for the mother. My role is to remain completely non-judgmental, listen and talk through issues and feelings that may arise, such as the natural dilemma between new baby and sibling priorities where I can usually provide experience based reassurance and suggestions.
I have much experience of supporting families with twins as well as babies born with low birth weight who need extra care and attention in the critical early weeks.
I am fully insured, have a paediatric first aid certificate and a current enhanced DBS.
Please feel free to contact me if you’d like to have an informal chat about my services.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Some testimonials from previous clients:
– When I went into labour on my due date, Rupa’s support as she entered the room was something I’ll never forget. How she immediately held me very firmly was a great reassurance, that feeling that she would be strong enough to speak for me and push for my preferences, even if I couldn’t. Postnatally, the support Rupa gave myself and my family was just incredible – I will never stop singing her praises! This was a really tough time and Rupa was so helpful from the second she arrived each day, her flexibility and adaptability to help with whatever we needed, whether it be taking Sylvie in the pushchair for a nap, prepping veggies, playing with our eldest child (3 years at the time), hanging laundry etc, all these things that gave me just a little bit more time to heal, bond with my baby, rest and recover both physically and mentally.
– From the first meeting with Rupa I knew she would be the calm, respectful, supportive and experienced birth doula I needed. I had a traumatic birth first time around and I knew I needed mental and emotional support during our second birth. Rupa was with us early in the morning for our planned gentle caesarean and from that moment forward I was relaxed and calm! Rupa worked well alongside the medical team before and after the operation. My son, husband and I were all so relaxed thanks to Rupa – A really highlight is her amazing massage! It’s very clear that Rupa cares deeply for her clients and their wishes, and has the life and doula experience to support whatever those wishes are.
–Rupa’s own experiences made her especially understanding about caring for a premature baby, in addition she is very calm, patient, kind and caring and therefore offers perfect support for a new mum which was ideal in my circumstances. She was happy to assist with my wishes but also able to offer her own knowledge and expertise to guide me which was invaluable.
–We feel that she deserves a sainthood; her patience with both adults and children alike is unfailing. We found Rupa to be competent, compassionate and incredibly flexible with our needs. She bonded well with our toddler which gave me the space to give attention to my newborn without feeling guilty about not spending as much time with my toddler as I had done prior to the baby’s arrival, and she was able to give me advice and reassurance regarding our newborn and toddler based on her experiences of parenting.
–Rupa has been indispensible! From the moment we met at our initial introduction, she has been kind, supportive and reliable. She has helped care for the twins, offering advice, guidance and much-needed reassurance in a way which has been totally respectful and non-intrusive. I am a very confident mother but in the deepest moments of sleep-deprivation and stress, she has been there to suggest possible solutions, remind me of things I may have forgotten in the newborn fog and also constantly tells me what a fantastic job I’m doing as a mama, which is so important.
–Rupa was very kind and listened to what we wanted before, during and after home-birth. She communicated well with the midwives and my partner which calmed me more. She made me feel I could get through the birth and that I was strong. Her words and support were powerful.”