Birth (Recognised since September 2019)
Lives in: Wouldham ME1
Local info and availability:
London, Kent & Essex
Pregnancy: trauma resolution (3 Step Rewind), library covering pregnancy, birth and parenting, Birth: solo or shared care, hypnobirthing, birth pool, massage, rebozo, TENS machine, Postnatal: Breastfeeding Counsellor (in training with ABM), stretchy wrap, connector sling
Hello there, I’m Ruth; mother (to humans, cats and dogs..), lover of the seaside, compulsive learner, and habitual napper (although I have had to curb that habit, did you hear about the cats and dogs and babies?). I am birth doula with a spot of postnatal doulaing on the side (shout if you’d like some and I’ll see what I can do).
You’ll like me if:
- You like your information with a large helping of evidence
- You want to birth your way
- You feel a bit different or misunderstood
- You are not sure what you want from birth, but you know you want someone by your side to be there with you
“Ruth is the most incredibly supportive, thoughtful and professional doula I have encountered. The information and support she gave us during my pregnancy and into my labour (and after!) enabled us to have the calm, empowered birth we wanted despite going into labour early and not being able to have the home birth we originally planned. We felt able to advocate for ourselves and ask for what we wanted, giving me an incredible water birth on a labour ward, something I didn’t think would happen.
I can’t recommend Ruth enough! She even came round afterwards with thoughtful gifts and breastfeeding help. What a wonderwoman.” — Stevie T
Quick links to my website pages:
With me as your doula, you get the benefit of my passion, knowledge, and commitment to all things pregnancy, birth, women and birthing people. I get a kick out of being a helpful, practical and loving part of the birth team working with you at the centre.
I don’t have an agenda for how you should give birth or parent, I just want you to get the choice and support to be able to do it the way you want.
You might find that you would like someone to listen to you alongside other practical support. Really listen, and hear what you are saying. I have been training in deep listening skills for many years. Someone really listening to you can make a huge and lasting difference and I love that part of my job.
As a trainee Breastfeeding Counsellor with the ABM I am able to use my skills and knowledge to help you to prepare for your baby and plan towards meeting your feeding goals – whatever they may be.
“If you want a great birth experience, you should get in touch with Ruth. She will give you support you need and make sure your voice is heard. My birth experience was amazing, I gave birth without any pain relief, just asked for the gas and air in the end. If I had any concerns or questions, I knew I could always ask Ruth. She will be always there for you when you need her.” — Elena
I teach the 3 Step Rewind tool for Trauma tool to any member of the family who is having a hard time with negative emotions and physical responses after experiencing a traumatic event. It has recently been reported that levels of birth trauma and PTSD from birth are higher than ever thought in both mothers and fathers. If this is you, please reach out for support if you feel able.
Everyone is different and when I work with families we find the best way to work together as much and as frequently as you want.
“You will not regret having Ruth present before and during your baby’s birth. The birth of our first baby boy was the most magical, positive, empowering and deeply bonding experience we could have ever hoped for as a family – this was in no small part due to the presence and influence of Ruth throughout. What a way to welcome our baby.
We found Ruth through her shared care set up with Laura, who was originally recommended to us by friends and mutual contacts. These ladies are strong, sensitive individuals who have completely got your back … that feeling is irreplaceable when preparing for and going into the most intense experience of your life. Especially as a first time mum.
Laura and Ruth shared the pre natal visits – they both took a lot of care to get to know my partner and I, understand our wishes and apprehensions and talk us through what would actually happen during labour and birth. Both Ruth and Laura are immensely knowledgable, as parents themselves, and through their experience as doulas. Ruth also has a great range of useful books to borrow!
During labour, Ruth arrived promptly and immediately got set up to help me work through contractions, give my partner a break and guide us through to active labour. Ruth balanced the difficult task of staying by my side throughout labour with not imposing or “replacing” my partner. Ruth was simply amazing – she breathed through every contraction with me over several hours, encouraged me when I was exhausted, supported me when faced with choices from midwives, held our space so my partner and I had the freedom to be, think and move as we wanted to in labour. As a bonus, Ruth also took some stunning photos of us as a family which we will treasure forever.
Ruth is also able to advise on breastfeeding, and despite being at hospital with us until 2.30am, was at hand the next day to offer breastfeeding advice by phone.
Ruth is a natural doula and has a deeply caring nature. I can not recommend her highly enough for the preparation for and birth of your baby.” – Natalie
Why am I a doula?
Well, while pregnant, it became a daily norm for someone to come and tell me about their traumatic birth or breastfeeding story. I could hardly believe how women were being treated during birth, and that it was seen as normal and ignored. It led me to want to get involved and make a change.
When allowed to autonomously make decisions about their own bodies and their babies, it has been found that parents make good choices. As a family, or single person bringing a child into the world, you are faced with many decisions to make, often surrounded by medical professionals. I will support you, with your birth partner if you have one, to be in the best position, ready with all the information you need to make the right decisions for you.
What do you want?
What is your focus for birth? Do you have any concerns? We will talk, I will listen, and support you with what matters to you. We will work together as a team towards the best birth for you.
Often people are thinking about pain or coping during birth. Studies have found some correlation between having a doula present at birth and reduced rates of inductions, cesarean sections, epidurals, forceps, ventouse and trauma. (See research page for more details).
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John H. Kennell
At the simplest level, I want to be a part of making sure your rights are respected during birth. Studies show that when women are respected and listened to, they often have a better birth experience, and much lower chance of trauma.
I want to be there to hold the space for you to make those choices, to keep the room positive and calm when others may become distracted or have other priorities. I know that you can have a beautiful birth, whatever that looks like for you and your baby.
There is more about my experience, offering and services on my website, along with a resource hub.
If you have any money worries I am more than happy to discuss lots of options to help you to get the support you want.
Email me at email@example.com to tell me about yourself and ask me anything you like.
Other stuff I do:
- volunteer for Family Action FamilyLine
- volunteer for Doulas Without Borders
- volunteer for Neighbourhood Doulas
- Co-facilitator for The Birth Network – North Kent
- Founder of The Kent Doula Collective
- volunteer for ABM and National Breastfeeding Helpline (in training)
Thanks for stopping by, I’d love to learn more about you; text or call me on 07886199300