Lives in: Wouldham ME1
Local info and availability:
I live in North Kent and work up to an hours drive from my house covering: Kent, South East London & Essex
3 Step Rewind for Trauma, ABM Breastfeeding Counsellor in training, lending library covering pregnancy, birth and parenting, Birth Pool, TENS machine.
Hello I’m Ruth. Congratulations on your pregnancy, I’m really looking forward to getting to know you.
“Ruth is the most incredibly supportive, thoughtful and professional doula I have encountered. The information and support she gave us during my pregnancy and into my labour (and after!) enabled us to have the calm, empowered birth we wanted despite going into labour early and not being able to have the home birth we originally planned. We felt able to advocate for ourselves and ask for what we wanted, giving me an incredible water birth on a labour ward, something I didn’t think would happen.
I can’t recommend Ruth enough! She even came round afterwards with thoughtful gifts and breastfeeding help. What a wonderwoman.” — Stevie T
Quick links to my website pages:
With me as your doula, you get the benefit of my passion, knowledge, and commitment to all things pregnancy, birth, women and birthing people. I get a kick out of being a helpful, practical, loving person who you might not know is there at the time, but afterwards, know made a positive difference.
I don’t have an agenda for how you should give birth or parent, I just want you to get the choice and support to be able to do it the way you want.
You might find that you would like someone to listen to you alongside other practical support. Really listen, and hear what you are saying. I have been training in deep listening skills for many years. Someone really listing to you can make a huge and lasting difference and I love that part of my job.
As a trainee Breastfeeding Counsellor with the ABM I am able to use my skills and knowledge to help you to prepare for your baby and plan towards meeting your feeding goals – whatever they may be.
“If you want a great birth experience, you should get in touch with Ruth. She will give you support you need and make sure your voice is heard. My birth experience was amazing, I gave birth without any pain relief, just asked for the gas and air in the end. If I had any concerns or questions, I knew I could always ask Ruth. She will be always there for you when you need her.” — Elena
I have trained in the 3 Step Rewind tool for Trauma with Mark Harris. I teach this tool to any member of the family who are having a hard time with negative emotions and physical responses after experiencing a traumatic event. It has recently been reported that levels of birth trauma and PTSD from birth are higher than ever thought in both mothers and fathers. If this is you, please reach out for support if you feel able.
You might want a hands-on, in-person relationship with me or prefer a virtual connection by text and phone call. Everyone is different and when I work with families we find the best way to work together as frequently as everyone wants.
“I fully recommend Mother Mother Doula. Ruth is so easy to talk to, she is really supportive, understanding and able to provide information and advice to help with nerves” — Cam
Why am I a doula?
Well, while pregnant, it became a daily norm for someone to come and tell me about their traumatic birth or breastfeeding story. I could hardly believe how women were being treated during birth, and that it was seen as normal and ignored. It led me to want to get involved and make a change.
When allowed to autonomously make decisions about their own bodies and their babies, it has been found that parents make good choices. As a family, or single person bringing a child into the world, you are faced with many decisions to make, often surrounded by medical professionals. I will support you, with your birth partner if you have one, to be in the best position, ready with all the information you need to make the right decisions for you.
What do you want?
What is your focus for birth? Do you have any concerns? We will talk, I will listen, and support you with what matters to you. We will work together as a team towards the best birth for you.
Often people are thinking about pain or coping during birth. Studies have found some correlation between having a doula present at birth and reduced rates of inductions, cesarean sections, epidurals, forceps, ventouse and trauma. (See research page for more details).
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John H. Kennell
At the simplest level, I want to be a part of making sure your rights are respected during birth. Studies show that when women are respected and listened to, they often have a better birth experience, and much lower chance of trauma.
I want to be there to hold the space for you to make those choices, to keep the room positive and calm when others may become distracted or have other priorities. I know that you can have a beautiful birth, whatever that looks like for you and your baby.
There is more about my experience, offering and services on my website, along with collected resources and research pages.
If you have any money worries I am more than happy to discuss lots of options to help you to get the support you want.
Call me for a chat or send an email so you can find out if I am another part of your winning birth team.
Other stuff I do:
- volunteer for Family Action FamilyLine
- volunteer for Doulas Without Borders
- volunteer for Neighbourhood Doulas
- Co-facilitator for The Birth Network – North Kent
- project lead for The Mother Side UK
- Founder of The Kent Doula Collective
- volunteer for ABM and National Breastfeeding Helpline (in training)