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3 Step Rewind for Trauma, ABM Breastfeeding Counsellor in training, lending library covering pregnancy, birth and parenting, Birth Pool, TENS machine, hypnobirthing CDs. I volunteer for Family Action FamilyLine, Doulas Without Borders, Neighborhood Doulas, ABM and National Breastfeeding Helplines.
You are looking for the right doula for you – so here is a little bit about me. It can be hard to tell us all apart from words on a page, so please do call or text/email if you’d like to get to know me – I love hearing from you.
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my name is ruth,
As well as being a mother, I am a doula. I am passionate, professional and strong. I don’t have an agenda for how you should give birth or parent, I just want you to get the choice and support to be able to do it the way you want.
You might find that you would like someone to listen to you alongside other practical support. Really listen, and hear what you are saying. I have been honing my deep listening skills over years, and it can be make a huge difference to your mood and level of confidence. One of the places I practise my listening is as a volunteer for FamilyLine: a phone, text and email service that offers listening, signposting, befriending and counselling for any adult free of charge.
As a trainee Breastfeeding Counsellor with the ABM I am able to use my skills and knowledge to help you to prepare for your baby and plan towards meeting your feeding goals – whatever they may be.
I have trained in the 3 Step Rewind tool for Trauma with Mark Harris. I teach this tool to any member of the family who are having a hard time with negative emotions and physical responses after experiencing a traumatic event. It has recently been reported that levels of birth trauma and PTSD from birth are higher than ever thought in both mothers and fathers. If this is you, please reach out for support.
You might want a hands on, in person relationship with me or prefer a virtual connection by text and phone call. I’m more than happy to work in a way that supports you best. As a Perinatal Professional for The Mother Side Network I will soon be running a group in Medway, Kent that is a space for women of many generations and stages of pregnancy and motherhood to share their stories without judgement or hurry. I would like it to become a place where there is lots of shared learning with talks & resources available for signposting on all different topics.
Why am I a doula?
Well, while pregnant, it became a daily norm for someone to come and tell me about their traumatic birth or breastfeeding story. I could hardly believe how women were being treated during birth, and that it was seen as normal and ignored. It led me to want to get involved and make a change.
When allowed to autonomously make decisions about their own bodies and their babies, it has been found that parents make good choices. As a family, or single person bringing a child into the world, you are faced with many decisions to make, often surrounded by medical professionals. I will support you, with your birth partner if you have one, to be in the best position, ready with all the information you need to make the right decisions for you.
What can I do for you?
It does really depend on you. What is your focus for birth? Do you have any concerns? We will talk, I will listen, and support you with what matters to you.
Often people are thinking about pain or coping during birth. Studies have found some correlation between having a doula present at birth and reduced rates of inductions, cesarean sections, epidurals, forceps, ventouse and trauma. (See research page for more details).
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John H. Kennell
At the simplest level, I want to be a part of making sure your rights are respected during birth. Studies show that when women are respected and listened to, they often have a better birth experience, and much lower chance of trauma.
I want to be there to hold the space for you to make those choices, to keep the room positive and calm when others may become distracted or have other priorities. I know that you can have a beautiful birth, whatever that looks like for you and your baby.
There is more about my experience, offering and services on my website, along with collected resources and research pages.
For a casual chat so that you can see if you like me, just give me a call, text or email.